Eternal Freedom and Happiness

There was a time in my life when I was so miserable. Lots of things felt wrong and I struggled maintaining the relationships I had. These relationships mean  romantic and non- romantic . The relationships range from formal to informal relationship. I would be so burdened when a relationship went South. It was a moment to experience great turmoil. Then I decided to have a meeting between me, myself and I and I was amazed at what I discovered. 

I came to the realisation the reason a relationship gone bad hurt had nothing to do with the other party but with me. This were some of the reasons: 
1. I expected the persons I relate with to relate with me exactly as I did with them. Like if I gift them they gift me. Many refer to it as tit for tat. 
2. I did things for them not for me. This hurt coz it only meant I live my life for others not for me. 
3. I wanted to transform them and they were not interested. 

When I came to this realisation I made resolutions . The resolutions enabled me have better relationships, move on to new relationships easily and live a more fulfilling happy life. I resolved:
1. It's not in my place to change another in fact I have no ability to. The person I can only change is me. So if I don't like the things another does I change my attitude not try to change them. 
2. Do things focusing on me not the other person. I will go to the market because feeding my family a healthy meal is important because then I spend less on health issues. Not because the society thinks it's a woman's place to go to the market. 
3. Everything I do , I do it for God. That way the only person I seek a reward from it God. That way if a favour to a fellow human being isn't returned it doesn't bother me. 
4. A relationship gone sour is an opportunity for me to move to new relationships. I simply analyze the good and carry them forward. If I feel I could have offered something I offer it to the next. That way the past remains a pleasant past of lessons of improvement. 

The above thinking helped me deal with the issues I had of:  
1. Submitting where and when I needed to. 
2. Taking action when there are other people that can
3. Letting go of attachments I had on people & things if I lose them. 

4. Having better relationships with others.

As a wife, I get to the kitchen and cook the meals because I want to eat a meal I know how it was cooked. Not because the society says if I don't cook for my husband he will find another wife. 🙄🙄🙄 .I Pay my employees on time, not because I have money but because I know it pleases God to do that. I tithe not because the church says if I don't tithe I cease to be a church member or the preacher won't use it for buying a luxurious car . I tithe because I understand God blesses me ten times fold. I raise my children giving them my best not so that they take care of me in old age. I raise them well because my Heavenly Father gives me the best as His child. 

Let's make a choice to have more happiness. Happiness is self acquired.