WORK GODFATHER AND GODCHILD

Time and time again I will hear someone out-rightly ask another; how did you get such a position in that company? and before they can explain the person questioning answers the question, you must have Godparent. Well the reality is that there are those who were employed because they saw somebody somewhere. How moral is this?

If you have read the Bible you will see that there are instances where the Israelite's got favors because they knew God. God was their godparent and gave them victory on several occasions. Still focusing on the Israelites and God, God showed them the way but they had to be ready and willing to pursue the way to the end. Those times that they failed to follow the way they faced the consequences. 

So now here comes a work godparent and godchild. The godparent will show the child the way by having them secure employment. But who is a good or bad godparent and godchild. I would say the good and bad reflects when both learn the limits they have to using the relationship. When a godchild decides to use the opportunity to better themselves by performing his task as expected they become an asset. As a godparent to anyone, I would be happy knowing my godchild is proofing he or she was qualified for the position they now hold by delivering. That way I would be proud knowing that whether or not I am in the company my child will thrive in the company.  While as a godchild to anyone, I would be proud to know I have made a mark for myself through my efforts not because those around me know I have a godparent and therefore give me credit where it’s not due.  This in my view is morally good. Just like a business man can mentor a new business person so can a godparent at work. 

The godparent- godchild becomes morally wrong when it is abused. This is when the godchild decides they won’t perform their duties because they know persons in the high ladder. Or when a godparent becomes overly protective of the grandchild and therefore doesn't give them space to make their own mistakes and learn from them. Or when the godparent seems to always bail out the child. What happens to the child when the godparent is no longer there in the company? How long does this child last? 

The same reality is true even in our homes.  Parents perform the role of bringing us into this world and equipping us with the basic skills we need to survive. When a parent becomes overly protective of their child, the child develops a dependence mechanism. Parents need to allow their children to learn from their mistakes and when the children come to them for help, it should be done in a way that it brings a sense of independence to the child. That way even when the parents are no longer near the child, they know how to get themselves off situations and emerge victorious. 

A sack for the Car Window

On Tuesday on my way to work a car drove past me. The car was of a good make and well maintained except for one issue. The driver's window was covered in a sack. Yes ladies and gentlemen, a gunia(Swahili word for a sack). The first thing that came to my mind was how was he able to see with the side mirror now that his window was all covered? Then I thought couldn't he have used a clear paper, then it hit me - plastic papers were banned. Mind you this was all in traffic. In fact at some point I thought I should take out my phone and take a photo of this man's survival tactic . I however couldn't . Perhaps because the car drove way ahead or because it didn't matter anyway. What I needed was the lesson from the survival tactic demonstrated by the man. And this was it.

See when the owner got to where he parked the car before hitting the road that day, he had an agenda. I don't know the specific agenda he was to perform but I do know he wanted to move from his location. See friends it didn't matter that he didn't have one window. He only thought its cold and rainy and I need to be on the move. I believe he had choices some that would have perhaps meant not going or not using that car because it had a defect. He however chose to not see the defect as a permanent defect but one that can be temporary sorted as he works on eliminating the defect completely. 

I don't know how you will receive this message but for me its clear. Some defects are permanent and deter us from moving forward because we chose to see them as permanent barriers. Or perhaps we worry what will this and this person say. Well then, they will say and perhaps think,  should that affect you as an individual really? Absolutely not, Its not any ones business to control what others think of them. The control an individual has is of thoughts about themselves and stopping oneself of  thinking about what others are thinking because it only drains if not derails them.  Present yourself as you are and know your destination and that will remain your sole focus.

Now that is the lesson for today after close to 2 years away from writing a blog. 

 

 

 

The above isn't the car mentioned

 

Roasting Sweet Potatoes

I don't know about you but i had mixed childhood. I spent my school days in the town and my holidays back at the village. Yesterday after mum's ceremony, we were given sweet potatoes and memories of childhood came calling. I remembered my childhood days. I was always in-charge of "gucokereria githeri" ensuring the fire place had firewood to cook githeri.  There would be times i would have some sweet potatoes to roast as the githeri cooked.

To date i still think roasted sweet potatoes is better than boiled sweet potatoes. So anyway the way i ensured it would cook was to cover them with hot ash and some charcoal . I would then go play with Simba (my dog) and come back later when i smelt the sweet potatoes. To me the smell was a sign that they are almost cooked if not totally cooked.  However i would sometimes take too long and forget i had buried a sweet potato only for it to turn into charcoal :(

Which brings me to today's life application. In life we go through situations that may appear too inhumane. Truth is like a sweet potato time comes when we need to bury ourselves under hot ash and cook without interference. During such times we are required to stay under and burn out all impurities till we are ready. However, it is important for us to take considerable time under the hot ash because if we take too long we turn into charcoal.

Stay under getting to learn yourself before you can allow someone into your life. But don't take too long learning yourself. Stay under saving some money. But don't take too long saving and not think of how to use up your saving as the money will lose its value. Take time spoiling yourself and treating yourself but don't over indulge and use up all your money.

Whatever we decide to do lets understand that we should not overdo that which we take up. We need wisdom to know when we are overdoing something. We need wisdom to know when we are persevering too long so as not to destroy ourselves completely. No one can eat a sweet potato that has completely turned into charcoal because it was over roasted.

May God give us the wisdom we need to know when we are ready so as to be useful to serve Him best while here on earth. Just like a farmer harvests sweet potatoes for his use. We were brought to this world to serve God in a certain way. May we not spend time overdoing things that we loose our true value.

May we all have a blessed day.

The Serial Number

Most of us when we were born we acquired our first certificate that is the birth certificate. The number issued on the certificate is unique to only you. Later on when we turned 18 years we applied for a National Identification Number. Well its no different for phones. Each phone upon being made by its manufacturer they issue it a unique number. Regardless of the similarities of the phones their numbers are unique. Sometimes back I called Safaricom and told them about my lost phone. Its wrong for someone to take something that you rightfully earned through your hard work. They told me with a police abstract and the serial number of the phone that could be done.

 I later went to the police station to get an abstract to block the stolen phone. However instead of me getting the abstract and taking it to Safaricom to block it i went to the office with my original abstract. The police informed me that they would be able to trace the phone with its serial number. Hopefully the thief would use the phone and when they do they would call me to collect my phone. I will give it a grace period then if its not retrieved i will go and block it at safaricom. The person who stole it will not be able to use it.

Applying this incidence to real life situation most of us behave like the thieves who took my phone. We don't realize that the things we are copying others were not originally meant for us. At some point the original owner will either have us traced or blocked from using it. The original owner is God. He created us unique with a unique purpose. It is that purpose that we should strive to know. Trying to be like others is like stealing their phones when you can safely purchase your own. Think about it my friends.

Lord thank You for creating us with unique numbers. May we realise that though we may look like other males or females our destinies are different.In Your Holy name we have prayed and believed. Amen

Knock knock on the Door

Yesterday was one of those days you plan to go home early and catch up on a series. Unfortunately, Kenya Power had other plans to keep me in darkness. The house was so quiet the only music i was hearing was of a child crying and its mother shouting. My phone was running out of charge so there was no way i was to listen to music through my phone. As i was waiting for my food to warm i heard a knock at the door. It was around 8 p.m so there was no way i was to open without asking who was at the door.

Those at the door said they are looking for house number 17 which i bluntly responded they check the next floor. One of them just clicked its like they wanted me to open despite my house not being house number 17. I thought they had left when i again heard a knock at the door. Now this time i was really getting irritated but there was no way i was going strangers to ruin my night. So i asked the name of the person they wanted. It wasn't my name and i didn't seem to know the person they were looking for. Reluctantly they left my door and sought help next door; where they were referred to the next floor.Today morning i reflected on the incident.

I thought of our day today life. The times we have information about the door we want but we keep insisting the wrong doors to open. We know the kind of spouse we want but we keep going after the wrong person who treats us ill. We know the way to do our job but we keep doing the wrong thing. We know that our happiness is our own responsibility but we keep expecting other people to give us happiness.

For how long are we going to waste time trying to open the wrong doors?What are we doing with the information we have on the door we are seeking? What would happen if we focused our energy on the door we are seeking? Think about it my friends.

Lord God thank You because Your doors are always open for us.Give us guidance and courage to go after the doors we seek. Give us the patience we need too. In Your Holy name we ask and believe. Amen

Wishing us all a lovely day ahead.

Recharge to Transact

"Sorry your account balance is not sufficient to complete this request. Please top up and try again."

The above message came through my phone when i tried to send a message this morning. Apparently i have ran out of airtime and need to recharge my account. It costs one shilling to send a message but regardless of how much i have in my handbag it will not help me send my message. I need to buy credit and recharge my account in order to continue with my transaction. This got me thinking.

In life we reach a point of halt and our journey comes to a mark timing state. During those moments we may have people surrounding us with love but that doesn't seem to help us. Like the money in my bag i need to buy credit and top up my phone to continue with my transaction. An individual needs to realize that though they have people surrounding them. Their circles may not be the charge to continue the journey. We need to actually recharge ourselves.

We may have people telling us how good and blessed we are but it doesn't take us out of our misery. Until we ourselves recharge and see the blessings around us it will be pointless. Think about it.

Are you ready to recharge yourself? Which area do you feel you need a recharge to continue? What are you waiting for? Why do you think you are not good enough? If not you to improve your thoughts,who will?

The Worry Antidote

Good Morning friends?

Do you find yourself worrying about your future ? Is your past haunting you and giving you sleepless nights ? Kindly read on this could rid you of this worrying.

I used to be this worrying freak. I would think of my past mistakes and just hate me. I would also find myself worrying about the future to a point that i lacked sleep. This was too much a burden it prevented me from living a happy life. Well friends this is now history. :-) :-)

Truth be no amount of worrying ever made things good for me. In fact it just made me sick. So i realised the solution isn't in worrying. I needed a permanent solution. And well like Isaac Newton the apple fell on my head and i came up with the law of ending worry and regrets.

"Guard your present because it is your future past that influences your future present ."

The law is simple. I cannot change my past but i can influence my future past and future present by making the right decisions in the present.

Look at it this way. If i eat healthy i will have no diseases related to poor diet in the future present . If i treat people right when i meet them in the future present i will not have enemies . However, If someone is a thief now they will worry about their  future because they will be in jail hence their future present may not be something to look forward to. If i waste all my money on cigars and drugs or alcohol, then in the future i have regrets about my past because in the future present i could be dying of cancer or have no savings for retirement.

Think about it my friends. If the law makes sense i am sure you will know what to do.

Wishing us all a worry free day. May we all be blessed by God Almighty.

Proper Seeds.

Good morning friends. The other day i was watching shamba shape up.It's a program that educates us on improving farming through providing solutions to a farmer. So on this particular day the farmer was complaining of poor yield. When asked which seeds she used she said she uses seeds from her farm's produce.There was nothing wrong with the seeds but because she did not treat them before planting the yield was poor.

Which is what happens to us each day of our lives. We plant thoughts in our lives each second. It is said that the mind transmits millions of thoughts each day. However, we do not take time to treat our thoughts. Hence the reason we continue to languish in pain and have bad days. If we take time to treat our thoughts we shall yield and transmit positive energy. Lets not allow negative thoughts and complaining to dominate our thought garden (mind) The sooner we do this the better our lives become. The more happier and content we shall be hence have energy to forge ahead.

Lord Jesus thank You for the gift of life. Help us Lord to practice planting the right thoughts in our mind. Heal us all of any physical or emotional pain. We ask trusting and believing in Your Holy word. Amen

What have you planted in your mind so far?

The Power in Us

Ever had a week you struggle waking up? I have .Somehow the sleep seems too sweet to let go easy. In the morning when i am early I like alighting at a short distance further from work so that I can walk. When late , I normally board another bus to drop me at the gate to work. This was that day when I decided to take a bus to save on time. Before boarding the bus I always have to inquire the route they will use because there are two routes. We all know during school holidays the matatu's are many and most will be scrambling to get passengers. When I inquired from like three conductors they said they weere going to use a different route  I wanted. Stranded I went to board a matatu that was close to the stage only to get a rude reception from the stage managers,(so i thought). Madam, usituonyeshe vile tutafanya kazi, ( Madam don't show us how we will do our work) , shouted the conductor. And with that he slammed the door and told me to board the minibus as it would use my route, which I did. When I was almost arriving i I informed the driver to stop  but he drove past the stage and when I noticed this I quickly informed him i need to alight." Madam nimesikia nakushikisha"  he shouted back, the voice was familiar. The same man who I had an experience with earlier was the driver. I alighted feeling very agitated then I asked myself what I was doing and talked myself out of the agitation with a daily lesson.


You see my friends, there is so much going on in the world today and whether we like it or not we are in the world and have roles to play physically outward. We are bound to meet naturally rude people and see things that aren't right. However being physically there with all the drama doesn't mean we allow it to affect our inner world. We may not have control of the outer world but the inner world is our control. I had the option of holding on to the ill treatment I had gotten but I chose to maintain my peace. We need to always remember that we are in-charge of the reaction of other people's action. The driver went on and perhaps didn't know he was rude or if he knew he didn't care. If I continue to be angry at him I will have a bad day and give him too much power.


Always remember that when someone does something to you that isn't right. The power of it hurting you is in you. How long we continue to suffer over other people's ill or good treatment lies in our control. Why then do we continue to punish ourselves by taking in the outer world into our inner world?

Liberate yourself and experience peace.

My Trash; Their Butter

Today is take the trash out day where I live. When I was taking out the trash, I had a deeper look at the trash and thought the lesson the trash could teach me. I wondered what would happen if i decided to keep the trash in my house and your guess is as good as mine; the house would become inhabitable due to the bad smell the trash would produce. At the same time those that carry the trash would be rendered jobless and perhaps not be able to feed their family. I also looked at the banana peels and remembered back at the village it is food for the cows. And there came my lesson for the day.

We may think life is unfair but truth be there are people that consider us trash and well some people are trash to us. Its a cold way to think but that is the truth of life's contraversy. Fortunately, all isn't lost because to others we are a treasure and those that we consider trash are a treasure to another. But there is a catch :)

If  we don't take the trash out, we shall continue living in stinking houses. Its important to have a day to take out the trash be it in form of people, thoughts , things e.t.c That is the only way we shall ensure we don't house gabbage in our heart, mind and house. It may sound cruel but some facts are better well said.

You are better of without some people in your life and at the same time don't force yourself to be in another person's life. Move on to a place where you will be a treasure and free yourself.