It all starts and ends at Family level

This day I feel the need to talk about something I consider sacred. My understanding of family is so deep that I have come to recognize the family unit as the core institution that drives a country. The reason why I say this is because its through a family that babies are made. Whether the man or the woman stays together as a family or not the fact of the matter is the environment through which a child is brought up has a great influence on the person they become or the choices they make. For the sake of sharing my thoughts on the family today my focus shall be on babies born and raised by parents or a parent with brothers and sisters.

Time and time again I have read and heard of family feuds between members of the same family. And the majority of the cases that I have come across have been wealth related. This comes where some click of siblings gang up in a manner to disinherit the others or parents allocate share of property among their children unfairly or where the children gang up to steal the wealth of their parents. The results are often deadly and some result to persons of the same family being lifetime sworn enemies. So the question then that comes to my mind is who then is to blame and how do we stop the vice of wealth from eating into families??

The answer is it all starts with me and ends with me. What I am saying to us all is that just like I previously mentioned that the environment we raise our children in determines the persons the children become in later years. See children learn a lot from observing the way the people around them behave . See my daughter has seen her father and I kneel and pray and with that she has become accustomed to joining us when we are praying and yes she kneels. There will be times when we allow her to say the prayers and after she says amen we all retire to bed because we know she said prayers for us all.

Let me break it down further. I have a brother and this is my daughter's uncle. If for example I am threatened by the presence of my brother I can unknowingly spread the same towards him to my daughter. Say for example my brother is favored by my mother in many ways and I keep expressing my frustrations about this in the presence of my daughter. What would I be saying to my daughter?

1. Your brother can be your enemy over wealth 🙄

2. My uncle's children are my enemies after all their father and my mum are rivals

See with the above scenario as parents it will thereafter be hard for me to teach my child how to be there for her siblings based on what I teach her indirectly. What I am saying to us all is if family feuds are ever going to end they must begin by the parents being more mindful of how they treat their relatives. If as a parent you don't want your own children to harm each other then lead by example. Don't be hypocritical by treating your sibling ill and expect your children shall be angels to treat each other humanely.

The change you need and want shall starts with you and me. Please note the above example of a family unit can be rolled out to other relationships e.g . Employer and employee ; leader and their subjects e.t.c. Let us all be challenged to be better people to improve the next generation of people not to make things worse for them.

That is all for now.