For What Reason did you Get Married?

I don't know your thoughts on marriage but my thoughts have always been it's for life. However, things seem to have changed and divorce cases have been on the rise. Many hypothesis exist.  A common one is this generation lacks the much needed patience and tolerance with each other. I am sure each of you may have heard or read a different one. One more hypothesis doesn't hurt.

When it comes to finding a spouse, in addition to what we think is the ideal person, there is that which we tell to ourselves. Reasons to marry one over another range from  physical beauty to financial muscles to intimacy prowess to companionship to many more. Many of us forget that getting a full package takes time and patience. We tell ourselves I can make money all I need is a man who loves me and is a good companion. We say I want a beautiful wife, I can hire a cook. We say I want a spiritual spouse that way chances of cheating are minimal. I want a romance prowess. Thoughts attract our reality and the universe gives us what we ask of it. A good number will tell God the key trait the right spouse needs to have.  Unfortunately, lots of us don't stick to our initial goal and change goal post while already in marriage and this is where all hell breaks lose. 

Some will go to their friends and compare their spouse to that of their friends. For others time and circumstances make them desire more than they had asked for. Say finances; you married for money but now children are here you need a present parent or a companion. Money was to be the parent hallo :) remember! You wanted a lady who can cook and take care of the house but now bills are rising and you need your wife to be working. You were to be the full provider,hallo!! What I am saying is when you start finding fault in your spouse, chances are you have changed your goal post. 

It's time to go to the drawing board. Take time to be honest with yourself. Begin to negotiate with the universe that your present need may be found in your spouse.Go back to God and tell Him I asked for a beautiful lady but  Lord I need her to also know how to take care of our family. I asked for money but Lord even this or that seems important. Give me the patience as you work on my spouse's transformation. If you want a full package ask God for it before marriage and have patience as God works on it. Many forget the bargains they made and years in marriage begin to complain. 

Think about it. Could you have said I can make my own money and now desire a spouse who makes their own? Could you have said I want a spiritual spouse and they spend time in church at the expense of family. Lots of these misunderstanding may be because of changing goal posts.