The Aerial of My T.V

Overtime electronics have become a great part of us all. So much that sometimes they seem to rule our lives. We now can have the Bible in our phones, i love technology. I can't believe growing up there was only one television set in the whole plot and we would all gather there to watch Mahabarat and Ramayan. Oh my, and now almost every neighbor has a television, thank God for that. Enough of the memories. So anyway just before i sleep i love listening to the radio and will switch off the t.v. For some reason yesterday the radio wasn't clear and had to reposition the aerial for a clearer signal. While switching off power for the t.v aerial, the signal for the radio became faint. I wondered how the two could be interconnected. This morning the story was the same, for a clear signal i had to switch on the t.v aerial. These two electronics have somehow become related and are now working together.

Which brings me to real life situations. Before a man and a woman marry they are different entities working and performing roles purely on their own. As they come together and get married well it becomes a necessity to work together to get a clear signal. Though each of them like my radio and t.v have their own aerial it is important for them to merge and use almost all things together. There are things a man cannot do without consulting his wife(vice verso is true) and switching off one aerial makes the other electronic have a poor signal. If we are going to get a clear signal for the music in marriage, both the man and the woman need to realize they need each other and work together. That is the only way they can work through the challenges that each of them faces in their day to day life. Think about  it

Lord Jesus thank You for the institution of marriage. Lord i nullify all negative declarations upon marriage and declare that they will stand the test of time. May You help those married to respect and love each other unconditionally. Teach the men how to love their women right that the women may submit to them. Lord even those not married with a desire to get married grant them the patience they need and mold them to be ready to receive the spouses they desire. In Jesus name i pray and believe. Amen

May we all remain blessed

Arrange your drawers

I did my cleaning over the weekend but some of my clothes didn't dry. When I got free time in between the week, I took time to put everything in its right place. Over the week that had passed, I noticed my clothes were over flowing from my drawers and I thought I need to purchase new drawers or dispose off the tops that I have out grown. Yesterday evening ,I decided to arrange and neatly fold my tops. Surprisingly, they all fit in the drawers and the drawers could lock. I know I have done this many times but today is the first time I gave it a practical application.

Our brain is a set of drawers designed to fit compacts of thoughts. It's also meant to be a storage system for all humans. However majority of us are abusing it and unfortunately thoughts can't fit well into the brains. Not because the space isn't enough but because we have filled it with so many disarranged thoughts. It's important for each of us to take time and arrange our thoughts. Once we do this we are able to know what to store deep in the mind for long term use and what to store at the replace or delete segment. The only time we can arrange our thoughts is when we take time and pose for 5 minutes every hr to ask what we have been thinking of.

It seems hard once you start but with practice we become better and get time to focus our minds on the right thoughts. It's said a human processes several billions of thoughts every day. Let's watch and ensure our thoughts are getting us to gain our billions not getting us to lose our billions.

Have a lovely evening.

Be blessed.

Long Distance Relationship Tips

Compared to men, women are much more emotional. The problems and tensions of long distance relationships may worry them a lot. But the main issue that bothers each and every woman in a long distance relationship is loyalty and trust. They feel that their partner is going to cheat on them whatsoever. In such cases, long distance relationship advice for women can actually help them survive the trauma.

Be Honest and Open About What You Want

It's important to set some basic rules, so that there are no hidden feelings between you and your partner. Establish what kind of relationship you want from your partner. Have you two agreed on seeing other people or you are committed no matter what. Should you see each other on special occasions like wedding anniversaries or birthdays and how many times should you see each other in a month.

Avoid Judgments

One of the best relationship advice for women on understanding men is not assuming anything. Men sometimes need to be left alone. They have their things to do like catching up with a baseball or ice hockey game with buddies, so there's a slight chance that he won't pick up your call for some hours. Unless and until you don't have the facts don't assume anything.

Avoid Excess Talking on the Phone

Some people find being in touch over the phone is the best way to stay in love. But sometimes it can really become a headache. Instead call your partner twice in a day and you will have more exciting stuff to talk about.

Be Patient

This is a rare quality. Almost 90% of the people in this world don't have it. If you feel that your partner is getting more and more busy with his work and his calls have become less. Don't lose your mind. Instead, keep yourself busy with some other things. If this trend of less calling is continuing, talk to your partner about it and explain to him how it's making you uncomfortable. I'm sure he will understand.

Encouragement

The reason that keeps you two away from each other is obviously very important to either one of you. As a woman or a man learn to encourage your spouse for what he/she is doing. Nice and genuine loving words are enough to make anyone special. I guarantee that your spouse will take that extra step to make you feel special and also help your relationship grow.

Hope this piece of writing on long distance relationship advice for women was helpful. Always remember, distance in a relationship doesn't mean the end of the road. It can also mean a new beginning. 

p.s  Not my original work      

Have you Killed your baby?

Today is one of those days  i am thinking about babies. They are totally adorable and no matter what a blessing from God. While wondering in my thoughts, I thought about the actual process of giving birth. From what I have heard from friends and seen in the movies the mother needs to push for the baby to come forth into the world (Normal Delivery)

Discussions with mothers have given me a virtual image of what really happens. A friend actually told me of her experience with this kind doctor who was with her during delivery. He was good with her untill that time she started pushing and stopped halfway. Well ladies and gentleman she got a slap that shocked her systems that her baby was out in a heartbeat. She was later to learn that the doctor slapped her because she stopped pushing when her baby was almost out and could have killed the baby.

This got me thinking about our everyday life. Many of us carry babies to term but unfortunately kill our babies during delivery. We either get too comfortable with those around us and forget our target or give up just when the baby is about to come forth and kill the baby by stopping to push. Well some are lucky to have slaps to prevent us from killing our babies but some aren't so lucky.

So next time you get a mishap, how about you take a step back and look at what you have stopped pushing. Let me give you an example...loss of a job and you are kicked out by the landlord. Could be your focus was to start your own but you got too comfortable and forgot to even plan. So the loss is probably the slap you need so that you go back to your focus...

Well hope it made sense to you.
 Be Blessed

THE ITCH

Some time back, i fell on flat ground and hurt my hand. It was one of those times you are down so fast you stand up asking how you fell. Yap i fell in the market place. Last time i fell must have been when i was running after a parking boy who had snatched my handbag. And just so you know i am not named after a leopard for nothing. I recovered all my items. God is good.Anyway back the falling.After dusting myself i walked to the bus stop feeling pain on my elbow apparently it was bruised. Later, the bruise healed but it was itch.  I however knew I couldn't itch it because it would become  a fresh wound.

Which brings me to today's lesson of the day. Many of us have wounds from the past and unfortunately instead of holding on the need to itch the wound ,we itch and make it a fresh wound. And well the healing process has to start again and so we keep mark timing on one spot. Its time we let go of the itch and let the wound heal to return to out normal self.

Lets forgive those that have hurt us in the past. Its never easy to forgive i know but at the same time i know carrying the pain all your life only makes a fresh wound more so when we come across the person that hurt us. Enough of opening wounds its time to let go, forgive and heal.

Father in heaven i than You for this great day you have given to us. Indeed its by Your favor and mercy that we are alive. Thank You because many times we wrong You an You forgive us. Teach us Lord to have a forgiving heart that we may live in peace. In Jesus Mighty name. Amen

35 Ways to Respect your children views and ways to know them in a better way. Must read

1. Put away your phone in their presence or avoid talking too much on phone when they r with you

2. Pay attention to what they

are saying.

3. Accept their opinions.

4. Engage in their

conversations.

5. Look at them with respect.

6. Always praise them.

7. Share good news with them.

8. Avoid sharing bad news with

them.

9. Speak well of their friends

and loved ones to them.

10. Keep in remembrance the

good things they did.

11. If they repeat a story, listen

like it's the first time they

tell it.

12. Don't bring up painful

memories from the past.

13. Avoid side conversations in

their presence.

14. Sit respectfully around

them.

15. Don't belittle/criticize their

opinions and thoughts.

16. Avoid cutting them off when they speak.

17. Respect their age.

19. Accept their advice and

direction.

20. Give them the power of

leadership when they are

present.

21. Avoid raising your voice at them constantly, be very assertive but calmly

22. Avoid walking in front or

ahead of them.

23. Avoid eating before them without sharing with them

24. Avoid glaring at them.

25. Fill them with ur

appreciation even when

they don't think they

deserve it.

26. Avoid putting your feet up in front of them or sitting with your back to them.

27. Don't speak ill of them to

the point where others

speak ill of them too.

28. Keep them in prayers

always possible and teach them to pray

29. Avoid seeming bored or

tired of them in their

presence.

30. Avoid laughing at their

faults/mistakes.

31. Do a task before they ask

you to.

33. Choose your words carefully when speaking with them.

34. Call them by names they

like.

35. Make them your priority

above anything.

Children's are parents treasure and their most precious gift on this land. They must have seen the world lesser than you but they see it in a different way which you need to appreciate. Listen to them and try giving them as much time as you can. These moments are more precious than anything in this world

P.s Not my original work.

50 THINGS TO GIVE UP ON

When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.
So starting today…

1. Give up trying to be perfect.
– The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards people who get things done. 

2. Give up comparing yourself to others.
– The only person you are competing against is yourself.

3. Give up dwelling on the past or worrying too much about the future.
– Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.  Right now is life.  Don’t miss it.

4. Give up complaining.
– Do something about it.

5. Give up holding grudges.
– Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.

6. Give up waiting.
– What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow.  Knowledge and intelligence are both useless without action.

7. Give up lying.
– In the long-run the truth always reveals itself.  Either you own up to your actions or your actions will ultimately own you.

8. Give up trying to avoid mistakes.
– The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake.

9. Give up saying, “I can’t.”
– As Henry Ford put it, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.”

10. Give up trying to be everything to everyone.
– Making one person smile can change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  Start small.  Start now.

11. Give up thinking you’re not ready.
– Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

12. Give up setting small goals for yourself.
– Many people set small goals because they’re afraid to fail.  Ironically, setting these small goals is what makes them fail.

13. Give up trying to do everything by yourself.
– You are the sum of the people you spend the most time with.  If you work together, you will be far more capable and powerful than you ever could have been alone.

14. Give up buying things you don’t need.
– Manage your money wisely so your money does not manage you.  Do not spend to impress others.  Do not live life trying to fool yourself into thinking wealth is measured in material objects. 

15. Give up blaming others for your troubles.
– The extent to which you can live your dream life depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

16. Give up making mountains out of molehills.
– One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

17. Give up trying to live up to the expectations of others.
– Work on it for real and exceed your own expectations.  Everything else will fall into place.

18. Give up the ‘easy street’ mentality.
– There is too much emphasis on finding a ‘quick fix’ in today’s society.  For example taking diet pills to lose weight instead of exercising and eating well.  No amount of magic fairy dust replaces diligent, focused, hard work.

19. Give up making promises you can’t keep.
– Don’t over-promise. Over-deliver on everything you do.

20. Give up letting your thoughts and feelings bottle up inside.
– People are not mind readers.  They will never know how you feel unless you tell them.

21. Give up beating around the bush.
– Say what you mean and mean what you say.  Communicate effectively.

22. Give up avoiding change.
– However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So embrace change and realize that change happens for a reason.  It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.

23. Give up your sense of entitlement.
– Nobody is entitled to anything in this world.  We are all equal.  We breathe the same air.  We get what we give.  We get what we earn.

24. Give up waiting until the last minute.
– Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.

25. Give up being dramatic.
– Stay out of other people’s drama and don’t needlessly create your own.

26. Give up being anti-athletic.
– Get your body moving! Simply take a long, relaxing walk or commit 30 minutes to an at-home exercise program.

27. Give up junk food.
– You are what you eat. 

28. Give up eating as a means of entertainment.
– Don’t eat when you’re bored.  Eat when you’re hungry.

29. Give up foolish habits that you know are foolish.
– Don’t text and drive.  Don’t drink and drive.  Don’t smoke.  Etc.

30. Give up relationships with people who bring you down.
– Saying “no” to right people gives you the time and resources required to say “yes” to right opportunities. Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and like minded.

31. Give up being shy.
– Network with people.  Meet new people.  Ask questions.  Introduce yourself.

32. Give up worrying about what others think of you.
– Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, first date, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way.  What they think and say about you isn’t important.  What is important is how you feel about yourself.

33. Give up trying to control everything.
– Life is an unpredictable phenomenon.  No matter how good or bad things seem right now, we can never be 100% certain what will happen next.  So do your best with what’s in front of you and leave the rest to the powers above you.

34. Give up doing the same thing over and over again.
– In order to grow, you must expand your horizons and break free of your comfort zone.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.

35. Give up following the path of least resistance.
– Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t find the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.

36. Give up persistent multitasking.
– Do one thing at a time and do it right.

37. Give up thinking others are luckier than you.
– The harder you work, the luckier you will become.

38. Give up filling every waking moment with commitments and activities.
– It’s okay to be alone.  It’s okay to do nothing sometimes.  Think.  Relax. Breathe.  Be.

39. Give up making emotional decisions.
– Don’t let your emotions trump your intelligence.  Slow down and think things through before you make any life-changing decisions.

40. Give up doing the wrong things just because you can get away with it.
– Just because you can get away with something doesn’t mean you should do it.  Think bigger.  Keep the end in mind.  Do what you know in your heart is right.

41. Give up focusing on what you don’t want to happen.
– Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

42. Give up taking yourself so seriously.
– Few others do anyway.  So enjoy yourself and have a little fun while you can.

43. Give up spending your life working in a career field you’re not passionate about.
– Life is too short for such nonsense.  The right career choice is based on one key point: Finding hard work you love doing.  So if you catch yourself working hard and loving every minute of it, don’t stop.  You’re on to something big.  Because hard work ain’t hard when you concentrate on your passions. 

44. Give up thinking about the things you don’t have.
– Appreciate everything you do have.  Many people aren’t so lucky.

45. Give up doubting others.
– People who are determined do remarkable things.  Remember, the one who says it can’t be done should never interrupt the one doing it.

46. Give up trying to fit in.
– Don’t mold yourself into someone you’re not.  Be yourself.  Oftentimes, the only reason they want you to fitin is that once you do they can ignore you and go about their business.

47. Give up trying to be different for the sake of being different.
– Nonconformity for the sake of nonconformity is conformity.  When people try too hard to be different,they usually end up being just like everyone else who is trying to be different.  Once again, be yourself.

48. Give up trying to avoid risk.
– There’s no such thing as ‘risk free.’  Everything you do or don’t do has an inherent risk.

49. Give up putting your own needs on the back burner.
– Yes, help others, but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

50. Give up fussing with every beauty product on the market.
– Good looks attracts the eyes.  Personality attracts the heart.  Be proud to be you. That’s when you’re beautiful.

And remember, mistakes make u human, failures help us grow, hope keeps us going and love is the reason we’re alive.  So keep learning, loving and living.  Never give up on yourself.

p.s : Not my original work