I am a lover of shoes and its always a challenge resisting a good pair of shoes especially when i have some extra cash to spare. Sometime late last year i traveled to Uganda on a pilgrimage to the place where the martyrs of Uganda were tortured and killed. During the visit we went shopping and i managed to get some very nice pairs of shoes at a fair price. When i wore the shoe they fit well and i was sure they would blend well with some handbags i had back home. When i got home i couldn't wait to wear my shoes and as proof i had taste i was complimented on them. Unfortunately that day i was very uncomfortable as the shoes felt a bit tighter. I wished i had another pair of shoes but i didn't. So instead i chose to wear the shoes only when i left the office desk.
I didn't know what to do with the shoes because i couldn't take them back where I purchased them . I wished i had picked a bigger pair of shoe but that was just wishful thinking.On this realization, i knew i had to make it work for me and more so because i loved the shoes. The fact that when i wore the shoes at the shop they fit well, i knew the discomfort wouldn't last long. Each time i removed the shoes after cleaning them i would stuff some papers in them. The shoes presently do fit well and sure enough i had picked the right shoe; the first day at the shop. In fact they seem a little bigger now. Had i gone back and picked a bigger shoe, after sometime they would have been too big to wear.
Today morning as i reflected on what has transpired and related it to real life , i thought about marriage life. At the beginning of the marriage we all are sure that the person we chose is the one we want to spend the rest of our life with. When we take our partners home and begin to go about our day to day activities things become thick and we start doubting if we picked out the right partner. This is when the discomfort comes in we wish we can go back and return our partner and pick another but we cannot.
The important thing to remember is that the discomfort in marriage doesn't last long. If we go out and pick another partner the discomforts will still arise. That is why we need to draw the line and learn to persevere through the discomfort stage. With our efforts and adjustments here and there the partner we chose in the first place soon becomes our perfect match. So yes i do believe marriage does become comfortable but only for those that endure the discomforting period.
May God give us wisdom to understand this. Have a blessed day.
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