The Discomfort Does Ease Off

I am a lover of shoes and its always a challenge resisting a good pair of shoes especially when i have some extra cash to spare. Sometime late last year i traveled to Uganda on a pilgrimage to the place where the martyrs of Uganda were tortured and killed. During the visit we went shopping and i managed to get some very nice pairs of shoes at a fair price. When i wore the shoe they fit well and i was sure they would blend well with some handbags i had back home. When i got home i couldn't wait to wear my shoes and as proof i had taste i was complimented on them.  Unfortunately that day i was very uncomfortable as the shoes felt a bit tighter. I wished i had another pair of shoes but i didn't. So instead i chose to wear the shoes only when i left the office desk.

I didn't know what to do with the shoes because i couldn't take them back  where I purchased them . I wished i had picked a bigger pair of shoe but that was just wishful thinking.On this realization, i knew i had to make it work for me and more so because i loved the shoes. The fact that when i wore the shoes at the shop they fit well, i knew the discomfort wouldn't last long. Each time i removed the shoes after cleaning them i would stuff some papers in them. The shoes presently do fit well and sure enough i had picked the right shoe; the first day at the shop.  In fact they seem a little bigger now. Had i gone back and picked a bigger shoe, after sometime they would have been too big to wear.

Today morning as i reflected on what has transpired and related it to real life , i thought about marriage life. At the beginning of the marriage we all are sure that the person we chose is the one we want to spend the rest of our life with. When we take our partners home and begin to go about our day to day activities things become thick and we start doubting if we picked out the right partner. This is when the discomfort comes in we wish we can go back and return our partner and pick another but we cannot.

The important thing to remember is that the discomfort in marriage doesn't last long. If we go out and pick another partner the discomforts will still arise. That is why we need to draw the line and learn to persevere through the discomfort stage. With our efforts and adjustments here and there the partner we chose in the first place soon becomes our perfect match. So yes i do believe marriage does become comfortable but only for those that endure the discomforting period.

May God give us wisdom to understand this. Have a blessed day.

Flavors of Life

Whenever i have gone to the restaurant and ordered for beef stew it always seems to have a different taste from the one that i prepare in my house.The only is a key ingredient in both is beef. The reason the beef stew tastes different is usually because of the other additional ingredients those preparing choose to add. At the end of the day the key ingredient can stand on its own and all what other ingredients used does is give it a different flavor.

Looking at it in everyday life. As an individual you remain a key component in making the meal your life. It doesn't mean that without the things that the world offers like spouse, physical assets you cannot live a complete life. In real sense these things remain a flavoring into one's life. With or without the flavors the meal of life would be complete because the key ingredients ( God and Oneself) are in existence.

Of importance to remember is that just like the additional ingredients while making beef stew can make it taste good they can make it taste bad. The key thing for the chef while making his stew is to balance them appropriately with the beef just to give it the right taste. Its up to the chef to know that a kilo of beef may need more flavors compared to a quarter kilo of beef.

In the same way an individual needs to find balance of their life and the things that aren't a constant in their life. Recognize that a spouse could be a carrot and not having carrots the beef can still have coriander and taste good. Recognize that the flavors of life can be substituted for each other but never can you substitute the beef for chicken as that becomes chicken stew not beef stew. God and an individual are the key ingredient in life. Don't let the flavors alter your key meal and overpower you. Don't let a spouse rule over your life. Don't let a friend rule over your life. Find balance and learn to substitute the flavors and enjoy your beef stew which is your life.